Wednesday, September 30, 2026

What is the right way of meditation

 Sri Sadgurubhyoh Namah

Let us try to understand what is the right way of doing meditation.
Everyone want peace of mind. And an untrained mind is agitated and there will be many thoughts zig zagging across brain, causing agitation in a person.
The person who wants peace of mind, realizes somehow that if those thoughts that are tormenting him/her stop or made to go away, peace will be there. This person (meditator) hears someone say that one needs to focus on something like a idol, picture, or a devata etc.Then that person tries forcefully to eject those thoughts from his mind and tries to focus on the object. The more he tries to get rid of them, those thoughts will return back with that much force. Then, the person loses faith in meditation also.

What is the solution ?

Here is the trick :

Don't focus

Just sit, and allow thoughts to flow whichever way they want to flow.
While thoughts flow, keep observation of the flow, as well as observe what impact those thoughts are having on you emotionally, what is happening in the body. Keep observation.
Dont try to stop thoughts.
The goal is not to stop thoughts. Goal is not to be peaceful.
The goal is to understand yourself. The goal is to understand what is happening with you.
if there are thoughts which make you anxious, and sad, Dont try to do meditation to become peaceful. try to understand why that thought is causing anxiety or sadness. Usually, some thoughts cause anxiety and sadness, and this happens because underlying that sadness, the thought has something to do with you, something to do with your understanding of life. Something to do with what you really want, and what you are really afraid of. Address those concerns, then those thoughts will not raise again

Balanced life

 Sri Sadgurubhyoh Namah

Good morning, 

How are you today ?

Have a good day.

Do you practice Yoga, Meditation ? Do you study Bhagavad Gita ?

I suggest that you consider this, no matter what we do in life (with respect to earning money), there is another aspect which is related to our health, peace of mind and our connection to God (these are unrelated to earning money), and one needs to balance both these aspects. We need to put effort for earning money and livelihood, also, at the same time, we need to spend some time daily for our health, and peace of mind.

Saturday, August 15, 2026

Mother

 Sri Sadgurubhyoh Namah


I asked my lovely 84 year old mother "Amma, you must have seen the world changed much, what are the different technologies that you have seen in your lifetime ?"

Her answer made me speechless. 

She said :

Generation-1 : When I was 8 years old , we used to cook in earthen stove with firewood. My mom used to put rice pot and took few rice grains and pray to fire god and rotate 3 times around the pot and put it in the fire, and proceeded to cook rice. I could see the pride and tears in my mom's eyes when she said "That was my mom". Then came the twin earthen stove, where we used to put some firewood straight, and some firewood in an angle. In one stove we put rice, and in another we used cook daal or sambhar. We were 10 people in house, and we used to cook for them. I used to cook, serve them, clean the place and then go to school.

Generation-2 : Then came the 'Kumpati' - the coal stove. We used to cook rice on coal stove on a 'Parigha' (Brass utensil). It was heavy. we used to cook rice for some time and then the extra water is strained off into another vessel. We used to put a ladle below and across the tilted Utensil so that it does not fall off, and we can be hands-free. And then , the daal / sambhar was cooked on the earthen stove. Then there used be two coal stoves, where on one stove we used to cook rice and on another we used to cook daal / sambhar.  The utensils were made of many different types of metals. There used to be a 'Seesam' coated utensil. It should not be put directly on fire. Atleast some water or oil has to be put inside that vessel, only then it needs to be put on fire. That utensil gets soot all over its bottom. There is  a special way to clean that vessel. First put the ash on it and put it on fire. Then remove and then using coconut peechu we used to scrub it. Then the utensil used to shine.

Generation-3 : Then came Kerosene stove. Then the Janata stove. There used to be 12 wicks in that and there is a central place. All the wicks has to be cut to same height, otherwise, the flame will not be even and then the rice will not cook properly. On kerosene stove, we used to cook rice first and then daal / sambhar and some curry. Those days Kerosene was rationed. We used to stand in ration queue to get the kerosene. Then game the 'Pump stove'. It also runs on kerosene, but there used to be a pump to be pumped, which will increase the pressure and make kerosene into gaseous state and the gas used to come out of a small nozzle. We used to poke the nozzle with a fine needle, then the gas will come out with force. Then we light it, then the fire will burn bright. We used to cook rice on 'pump stove', and then the daal / sambhar was cooked on the Janata stove. 

Generation-4 : Then came the 'Gas stove'. Getting a Gas cylinder connection was a BIG thing in those days. Even if you get a gas connection, getting a gas cylinder is rationed. We used to use the gas sparingly and constantly worried what will happen if gas cylinder becomes empty. We were at the mercy of the person who used to deliver the gas cylinder to our house every month. The gas stove used to have two fire-places. We used to cook rice on one, and daal / sambhar on another and curry too. Later there used to be three burners. Now a days there are 4 burners.

Generation-5 : There used to be electric stove. There were two varieties in electric stove. One that comes with a coil, and one with a plate. I used both varieties. We used to cook rice first and then followed by daal / sambhar followed by curry. 

Generation-6 : Induction stove. Due to the recent Gulf war and gas prices shooting up, we bought 'Induction stove' in addition to the 'Gas stove' we had. She cooks rice in Induction stove, and daal / sambhar in the gas stove and then curry. 

Then she explained about various utensils she has seen. Then she explained that she has seen various types of lights. She didnt mention automobiles, television, internet, computers, or mobile technologies or AI, even though she uses  all of them. 

She uses mobile to watch various YouTube channels regarding how to cook different types of dishes to make for us.

She translated Bhagavad Gita pravachan of some swamiji , which was in Hindi, to Tamil. She learnt how to type in tamil on laptop, and then she typed her entire translation. She guided data entry operator, and proof readers, and then the printing press to print few copies of that.

She traveled in aeroplane, and car. She visited USA, Australia, New zealand, Singapore.

However, all these technologies doesnt come to her mind when I asked this question.

Her mind was centered around 'How do I cook rice and daal / sambhar and curry, and feed my family members' in her entire life.

I bow down to her and the Mother in her. 

I love my Mom. 

She cooked rice, daal / sambhar, curry , chutney her entire life on various types of stoves, first to her parents, brothers and sisters in her maternal home, then to her husband, mother-in-law and in-laws, sons and daughters, then to her grand children, and then to her great grand children. 

In which ever home she cooked, on whichever stove she cooked, which ever utensils she used, the unbelievable taste of the rice, daal / sambhar , curry and chutney was same and the unconditional love with which she filled all our stomachs over 76 years is same. 

Wednesday, July 1, 2026

Hallucination

 Sri Sadgurubhyoh Namah


I am not an expert in psychology. I was reading a post by a friend on some theory by someone. That made me write this post. I may be wrong and I dont want to hurt anyone or contradict anyone, however, this is what I felt and penning here,

My friend wrote,

" In Wilber’s formulation, reality is composed of nested holons, each maintaining its own organisation while participating in larger orders of existence. "

My reply to him below :

The problem with all the theories is that they consider the world as real, and then proceed to explain the 'reality' in various theories. Every theory is self-contradictory in some way.

When your starting assumption is incorrect, how can you ever hope what you are theorizing is correct ?

Everyone make the same first mistake. They first consider the world as real, and consider themselves as a body inside a world. Nobody verifies the correctness of this assumption. They take it for granted. Now, once a person is blind and groping in a dark alley, one can hallucinate to their heart's content, and come up with any theory as per their hallucination.

I also would like to ask a question , What is the purpose of any theory ? Especially a theory in psychology ? What do they want to achieve ?


Wednesday, June 24, 2026

What is life ?

 Sri Sadgurubhyoh Namah

World is there to challenge us in every possible way.

Some will praise you. Some will put you down.

Something will be favourable to you. Something will be unfavorable to you. You dream of something. Some dreams are fulfilled. Some dreams are shattered. Some dreams are work in progress. Some pleasure. Some pain. Some happiness. Some sorrow. Some friends. Some foes. Most people are neutral. If you show your friendly side, others show their friendly face in reciprocation and vice versa. There is just enough money to barely fulfill needs. There is just enough little bit extra money for some enjoyment. All the time is spent on activities which seem to support all the above and similar life content. 

This is what world has to offer. 

Everyday activities seem to suggest I am making steady progress. Progress towards what destinations? It is like Walking on a treadmill , seems like making progress, it shows 5 km walked. However, I am at the same place where I was always. 

I am eating 3 times a day to satisfy hunger, whole life it was done, inspite of it, hunger returns back. Many desires are satisfied.  New desires replace older ones. This is life.

Health is a mirage. Many diets, exercise plans, doctor and medicine support, yet body deteriorated as age progresses. It is an uphill task. 

Many relationships, relatives, properties acquired. All this setup requires maintenance with great care and great effort, and all these , I cannot hold onto beyond a certain time.

This is life in a nutshell.

Such being the nature of life, I wonder what life is leading up to? Is there a direction or destination? Or is it just a journey?

 Who knows?

Tuesday, June 23, 2026

Spiritual Journey

 Sri Sadgurubhyoh Namah

Spirituality is a journey towards 100% equanimity. An ability to face the vicissitudes of life equanimously. Spirituality is an attitude which grows slowly in you. 

It keeps growing. It is helping you. You are better today than yesterday.

You cannot become ' the best ' suddenly one day. 

What you want is that the '100% equanimity' manifests right now in you. Instead what you are finding is you are NOT 100% equanimous , and while dealing with world, you are getting hurt. And you are saying 'come on, I understood Advaita, now please spare me this pain'.

Please understand that, this is a process. All of us has to pass through this small, small painful incidents, making small corrections, and journey towards 100% equanimity'.

It's a learning process. And I agree that it is a painful process. Every one has to pass through this daily painful learnings.

No escape.

Only hope is, we are on the journey path towards 100% equanimity' and somewhere we are on that 0 to 100% equanimity scale. And hopefully we are learning and improving daily

Real Meditation

 Sri Sadgurubhyoh Namah


I got up, had a shower, and had a nice cup of coffee. Doing nothing. Enjoying the quiet morning.

Sitting quietly, not thinking particularly about anything. Not bothered by anything. Doing nothing. Not even trying to meditate.

This is the real meditation.